A stingy nature emerged in the domestic feud between artist couple Baim Wong and Paula Verhoeven. Baim has been said to be a husband who is stingy towards his own family.
Baim himself has denied these rumors by stating that he actually supports Paula’s family more than his own family.
Learning from the financial problems in Baim and Paula’s household above, in a husband-wife relationship, aka a household, there is something called a form of financial intimidation, which must be dealt with immediately.
Problems like this can happen to anyone, let’s identify nine signs that you are experiencing financial intimidation by your partner and what you should do
Doesn’t allow you to manage your own payroll
If your partner asks for your salary as soon as it is received to manage household expenses, that is intimidation. You have the right to manage your own salary, and financial decisions must be made together.
In an ideal marriage, a husband and wife can have a joint account for household needs, but still have the right to save their salary in a personal account. Coercion in financial management by one partner is a form of oppression.
Strict control over expenses
Do you feel the need to ask your partner for money even though you have your own income? If your partner manages all the finances, provides limited pocket money, forbids credit cards, and constantly monitors spending, that’s a red flag. Especially if he always checks receipts and gets angry when expenses don’t match. If left unchecked, this behavior can develop into emotional or physical abuse.
Rude when asked about expenses
Is your partner stingy in giving you money for your needs, but wasteful for himself? If he only gives a little for the family’s needs while buying expensive things without telling you, that is financial bullying. If he gets angry when asked and even becomes aggressive, this situation needs to be addressed immediately.
Registered large assets in his name
If your partner registers large assets, such as a house, car, or investments, only in his or her name, be careful, this could result in you losing rights to those assets in the event of a divorce. To protect your financial security, make sure all family assets are recorded as joint ownership. Keep yourself safe and have control over your future.
Inhibits career or income
If a partner tries to control a career, that is financial oppression. He may forbid you from traveling, criticize your work, discourage promotions, or even encourage you to quit. Even a manipulative partner can be annoying at work.
Take out a loan in your name
If your partner forces you to sign a large loan and use the funds without contributing, this is very dangerous. You could lose assets and damage your credit if you fail to pay your installments, which will hamper your ability to borrow in the future.